The ancient Indian erotic love manual, Kamasutra of Vatsyayana, advises that a man should woo a woman for 10 days after their wedding before attempting to consummate the marriage. During this time, they should take ceremonial baths while listening to music, dine together, attend performances and visit friends and relatives. In short, they date, or more specifically, he courts her. During this time, it is the man’s job to gain his wife’s trust, using all his persuasive wiles, but never force because “women are like flowers and need to be enticed very tenderly.” It begins with brief, gentle embraces and leads next to his giving her betel with his mouth and kissing her quietly. If she rejects the betel, he must beg, make promises and even fall at her feet.
Source: The Kamasutra a new translation by Wendy Donniger and Sudhir Kakar published by Oxford University Press 2003.
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